The power of appreciation

The power of appreciation

Has it ever happened that you wake up in the morning and you feel happy and at peace? Then your whole day goes well and beautiful. You see the things that make you happy and the little things that once bothered you are no longer there. Everything is like a sweet fairy tale.

Has ever the opposite happened to you? You are in a bad mood and it seems like whatever you touch breaks? The good things you used to see seem boring and meaningless? It’s like the whole universe is conspiring against you and your happiness?

Is it chance? Life sends us sometimes good days, sometimes bad ones?
Do we really depend on the weather – if it’s sunny we are happy, if it’s rainy we are sad?

In truth those good or annoying things that happen on any given day are not really an accident but rather a point of view. When you feel happy and grateful for life you tend to see more good things in your life, and you don’t notice the things that once bothered you.
On the other hand, when you feel anger and frustration you project it on everything around you.

Things don’t really happen to make you sad, angry or happy but rather your inner state gives them the color of your feelings.

We, as human beings have the beautiful opportunity to choose – to choose our actions and mostly to choose what we give our attention to and how we respond to things.
Nothing is good or bad, it is what we see in it and what we make it to be.
And here is an interesting fact, the people who are often happy, in good mood and things are working out for them are not necessarily born under a lucky star, but rather they tend to focus on the bright side of things – on that which they like about the things around them, on the opportunity in the situation and on being grateful and appreciating the gifts of life.

Gratitude has a great power. It can change not only your inner state but everything in your life. When you focus on all the good things in your life that you usually take for granted you realize how extremely grateful you can be for everything – from the sunny day to the bed you sleep in at night.
On the other hand, if you always look at what’s lacking you will always create misery for yourself and the people around you.

The inherent nature of human beings is in truth peace, joy, love and gratitude. That pure essence that has created us as a baby in the womb, that’s given us our first breath, that kept us up during our first steps, that is the light behind our eyes and the silence behind our every heart beat – that pure essence is true unconditional love and wisdom. It is what we are born through and as. And the nature of that essence is gratitude, it is life itself, the miraculous power that makes the sun shine and the bees fly. When we see and know that, we realize that our life is miraculous and a great gift. Something we can’t even begin to comprehend with our minds. What is there to complain about?
Isn’t gratitude the least we can feel for that great, awe inspiring mystery that we are?

When we think we know what life is and who we are we become arrogant. We start to take things for granted and when you take things for granted you start to complain and see lack around you.

Just look at a baby or a toddler – that magnificent joy in their smile, the absolute amazement with which they look at things, the happiness, the silence, the unconditional love. That’s the shining of our true essence, of the light we are born with and we have within us throughout our whole life.
We forget it is there when we start to think we have figured it all out. In truth we haven’t understood anything, we have just become dull.

Gratitude is the power that can reawaken us to the beauty that surrounds us.

We wake up in the morning and often we just drink the same water, taste the same coffee and have the same things to do ahead of us. But it’s not quite so. The very fact that we wake up and taste things is enough of a miracle in itself. Everything that’s at our disposal is pure love, the great love that sustains us. That glass of water is keeping our body well and healthy. That tea or coffee is a little gift to bring us joy.


When we focus on being grateful, we wake up in a world of pure Grace.

And oh, what beauty it is to see with the eyes of love. Nothing is ordinary anymore. In fact it never was, we just missed to see.

You can start with simple steps – count the things you love, appreciate what you used to take for granted, look for the little things that bring you joy, smile at the sky, listen to the birds singing and just say Thank you ! Thank you ! Thank you !

When a thought comes of what you don’t have just think of all the things you do have instead. And like that from a feeling of lack comes a feeling of richness.
When you want to complain about a situation think of all the ways it is helping you grow, think of all the blessings it has brought.

And just like that you start to see … you see that you have a choice. The choice to see and act with love and appreciation or to do so with arrogance and complain.

Life always supports you – if you want to be happy and spread joy it gives you that experience. If you generate thoughts of negativity and bad moods it gives you more reasons to do so.

In fact life is your mirror – you shout at it, it shouts back. You smile at it, it smiles back.
So next time you are at a choice to give gratitude and love or to think of lack and wrongs remember that, it is your own creation.

Photo by Flor Blake Photography

What’s your story?

What’s your story?

Have you noticed – anytime you meet a new person they ask you to tell something about yourself – who you are, what you are doing and basically … what’s your story.

Why is a story so important?

We need to navigate through life through images, words, sounds and tastes. In order to orientate we need something to guide us, a compass that shows us our journey from where to where we are moving. A story is made out of impressions – of what we have heard, seen, tasted and experienced. Once we have recorded those impressions in our mind we have made them our qualities and ultimately our business cards. The story you tell is your business card. People want to know what you have in order to process you as a person.

But your story is not all for others either. Most of all it is important which story you are telling to yourself, because honestly … all stories are eventually made up … and if you can make up any story why not make up the best story?

If you make a simple experiment and write down the story of your life but first focus on all the things that have gone wrong and you didn’t like – all the could haves, should haves and “I didn’t want this”.
Tell the worst story ever you can and then see how it makes you feel.
Does it make you happy? Does it make others happy? Does it bring the sunshine in your life?
And notice how does it influence your outlook on life, what decisions and actions it makes you take? Happy ones, wise ones?
Fair enough.

Now give it a second try but this time tell the best story of your life – all that you loved and you are grateful for, all that made you the person you are today, all that you enjoy and appreciate. Tell a story of joy and happiness and see how it makes you feel. Is it different? Do you notice the change in the air? What decisions and actions it makes you take? Better ones? How does it make others feel and what does it make them think?

The story you tell to yourself has great power because it influences your whole life – your moods, your feelings, your decisions and finally your actions. When you realize it you start to notice how often you have sabotaged yourself in focusing on negative stories when you could have really focused on all that’s good and right. But the worst is when we start to tell those stories to others and instead of making their lives a bit more bright we try to convince them in our own made up fears and doubts.

Stop and examine who you believe you are.

Creating a conscious life is really about bringing more light into what’s going on in the dark corners of your mind. When we don’t pay attention we often tend to indulge our thoughts in worst case scenarios, anxiety, fears, judgments and regrets and this can go on and on making it the unquestionable story of who we are.

But why not question? Why not question if that story is right? And if it’s not quite so could we not make it right or at least choose one that makes you feel right?
A situation always has at least two versions – the one of what’s bad and wrong and the one of what’s good and right and to tell you a secret we are really the ones who choose which side of the coin will stay up.

And a story is much more powerful than that. It can create your personality, your friendships, your business and your life.
But I am not here to tell you to create a completely false story, no. I am telling you to see your own already amazing story! We all have a really fabulous, award-winning story when we choose to see.
All those unique things about yourself can be real gems when you pick them up and polish them.

If I would leave you with any message it would be to look and see all the good things you have and have had. And maybe all the difficult things that brought you wisdom and strength. And all the silly things that made you keep your innocence. All those little things are your real gems. Don’t throw them away but see how beautiful they’ve made you look today.

Are you living your dreams?

Are you living your dreams?

Did you know that 98% of people don’t follow their dreams and don’t live a fully fulfilled life?

Please, don’t be one of them!

I was making a little research for my recent webinars and courses and I wanted to know what determines success and how comes just 2% of people live the lives of their dreams.

Is it karma, is it good luck, or is it brains and strategy?

How comes 98% of people don’t dare to make their dreams come true?

Well, I did my research and found some simple but very powerful facts. And above all I found the 3 things that really make a difference when it comes to goals, dreams and living a fully fulfilled life.
Do you want to know which they are? I bet you do.

Here are the 3 master points that successful people have all clear and in place and the rest have … well … in a bit of a mess.

 

Photos by (c) Ursula Schmitz

There is one very common thing when it comes to how exactly successful and extraordinary people achieved their dreams. It might sound simple but is really a key.
Ready for it?

1.It is knowing what you want and where you want to be.
That’s right. Simple, but I guess so often we are not quite clear about what it is we really want, or we keep on changing our mind. But there is one thing you need to know. To get somewhere you first need to know where that somewhere is. And until you do you might be just walking into many side street.

So, most importantly, get clear on what it is you want and stick with it.
Yes, stick with it, go for it, just follow it. And don’t just have it in your mind, because it will just remain a vague, distant idea that some day might work out …or not. So take a pen and paper and write it down. You might be surprised because something much different might come out when you start writing. So, take that exciting journey and start by writing down what exactly it is that you want to have, do, where you want to be.
Yes, have it black and white on paper and feel it in your heart.

2.Say “yes” to opportunities.
I know it can be scary to do new things, but if you want something amazing you will have to do something about it. Most successful people took any chance and opportunity they had. They didn’t think about it, they just said “yes” … and that yes took them from nowhere to everywhere.
When you know what exactly you want and you take the chances that life gives you, you achieve great things. As opposed to not knowing quite what you want and just staying in your small comfort zone … as obviously those 98% did.
Is it so hard to take chances that just 2% make it? Maybe. But the question is in which crowd you want to be – those living their dreams, or those working for other people’s dreams.

3.Have great passion and enthusiasm.
That’s right. I have to tell you, you might have that idea and plan about what you want to achieve but if you don’t have the passion for it … it might not go so far.
Passion is really the fuel that take dreams from just a thought to reality.
Without it there is no power to manifest what is just in your mind.
But with a passion and a vision and an open heart you might find yourself living your dream life.

So, to cut it short it’s really down to you, what you want to do and where you want to be. Do you want to live the life of your dreams or you are happy with whatever comes on your way. They are both good, no bad thing. If you are happy in every way that’s already having achieved the best thing.

 

How to have the perfect life?

How to have the perfect life?

Let’s be honest – we all want to be happy, we all want to live well, we all want a life of comfort and no struggle.This a very natural desire.
People often ask me “But how to have that amazing life?”, ” How to have a beautiful relationship?”, “How to meet the right people?” … it seems to never really work out.
You long to meet the right person but always seem to meet the wrong one, it always seems that something is not enough. You long to finally reach that perfect moment in your life where you have everything you wanted and you are happy and fulfilled … but always something seems to be missing. So you are looking forward to tomorrow, to the next one, to another one … hoping it will be different, but it never really quite is, is it?   I have to tell you something … It will never happen quite the way you imagine. We believe we know what’s right and what’s best and we always compare our experiences with our imagination and projections just to make the conclusion that things should be different than they are right now.
But it is really not about the things in themselves … it is really more about our mindset and attitude.
 

Is there a perfect life?

  Yes, totally … and you might be surprised but it is exactly the life you are living RIGHT NOW. Your life just as it is in this moment is the perfect life for you right now.  

Photos by M. Ecker Photography

Believe it or not … you are having exactly what you need to have, you are making exactly the experiences you need to make … to grow, to evolve, to taste, to feel and to transcend. It might not look like a Hollywood movie to you but it is serving a beautiful purpose and is absolutely right in itself. The thing is, most of the things we have, the experiences we make, the people we meet are so good for us, so right, so fitting and so perfect that we simply can’t see it. We grow up with funny ideas and mindsets about life, forgetting our original nature and harmony with the Universe and all-that-is that at the end we simply can’t appreciate anymore the natural wisdom and righteousness that surrounds us.   And let me tell you something more. Things will not put themselves right on the outside until you put them right on the inside. There is nothing wrong in itself but our interpretation, thoughts, fears and desires make things appear right or wrong in our mind. Your idea of your perfect life prevents you from seeing the life you have right now and it’s absolute perfection. Your idea of your perfect partner prevents you from seeing the beauty and potential of your current partner. Your ideas of your perfect work prevent you from making the most of the circumstances and possibility you have right now. Ideas, ideas, ideas …  

Mostly our ideas about how things should be prevent us from appreciating and enjoying things as they are.

  So how to have the perfect life, the perfect partner, the perfect work, the perfect looks, the perfect … anything? Drop the ideas of how things should be, how they should look like and meet them in their purity in this moment, see them without demands and expectations, accept them as they are … and you might find yourself fulfilled and happy finally appreciating the grace and beauty of your life as it is right nowperfect.  
Do we remember the natural life?

Do we remember the natural life?

Human beings have been on this planet for thousands of years. We have lived and evolved through all incredible conditions with wild nature, animals, dangers and uncertainties to be here in the world as we know it today with fast moving cities, new emerging buildings, comfortable homes, social security system, television, cell phones and available wifi from almost every point of the world.

Seems we have it much easier than our ancestors back then who didn’t have the chance to call an ambulance when they were hurt or check the weather forecast on their phone but

Have we in the meanwhile forgotten the natural life?

Certainly there are many advantages of having all the comforts and security we have today but it seems that we are not so much in tune anymore with ourselves, life and nature as we used to be before.

Many psychological and emotional discomforts we experience nowadays are the result of having lost the connection with our most natural Self and being.

 

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Photos by Unsplash and Anang Dadhich

Relying on outside information, medias, others’ opinions and ideas has alienated us from our own intuition and powers to be in tune and harmony with life, with our bodies, with our emotions, with our desires, feelings and deeper aspect.

It is not a myth that there is great wisdom in us and a natural knowingness of life that comes spontaneously and intuitively.
But why do we so rarely experience it?

How did our ancestors survive so long without any outside information, without relying on anything and anybody else other than their own being and intuition?

We are so much preassured by the ideal images of how we should be, how life should look like, what is right and what is wrong, what is true and what is false that we can no longer hear our own voice and our own being that always has the right information.

We are not just here living life, we are life!

That is why our intuitive powers and knowledge are here, because we are not just someone living life, we are life itself, we are not separate, so deep down inside us we know what to do in every given moment, we know what is right and true, we know how to respond to any situation. And that knowledge, that knowingness you can’t read in any book, nor can you learn in any school … because it is you, it is in you, it is what you are.

Life is not an enemy to survive. Life is a great mystery to discover!

self-discoveryBut when we are not in tune with ourselves we miss it. We are so entangled in goals and ideas that we have seen somewhere else and made our own that we can’t see what is truly here in this moment, what is natural and pure.

Why do we so often feel unhappy, unsatisfied and unfulfilled?

When we live through false ideals, projections and thoughts we obviously feel something is not right. When we can’t hear our own voice and don’t follow our true desires there is no way to feel fulfilled and satisfied.
When we are not living the natural life but an artificial life, alienated from our own Self how can we possibly feel happy?

 

So, how to get in tune with our Self again?

The truth is that this great power in us to know, to be, to live in synchronicity and harmony with existence has never left us. It has only been a little bit forgotten.

The first step to rediscovering our own wisdom is to reconsider our values and goals and realize what really gives us true happiness and peace and what only gives us strive and sorrow.

Has the way of competition, stress, ambition, comparison, selfish desires brought us something worthwhile or has it only alienated us from the simple joy and happiness of our Self?

Yes, modern life has many advantages but we can truly appreciate them when we don’t forget what is truly beautiful and valuable, when we don’t forget the simple wisdom of our Heart, the way to our Self and the voice of our Being.

And the simplest knowing that true happiness comes from living a natural life, remembering the simplicity of being and appreciating the beauty of this moment.

 

 

The thoughts that steal your happiness

The thoughts that steal your happiness

Have you ever had the thought “If onlysomething was different“, “It could have beendifferent.” … “It should have been in another way.” …
Should have, could have, if only … meet the thoughts that steal your happiness!

These little thoughts and words are often our everyday companions. We don’t realize but so often we imagine and mourn over how things could have been different than they are and how much better it would have been this way. But guess what? Those thoughts are exactly the thoughts that steal your peace, your joy, your happiness.

Why? Because things are as they are! They are not supposed to be different than they are right now … and your wishing and imagining them to be in another way simply distracts you from being at peace with them and seeing that they are just perfect as they are!

Could have is rarely a solution to any situation, it is rather a waste of time and a sure way to make yourself unhappy. Rather accept and see the reality of the moment as it is and see if apart from your imagination something is really wrong here.

Often it is not life in its expression that is wrong but rather the ideas we try to enforce on it that are not quite fitting. Whenever we indulge in the could or should have we are just unnecessarily bringing ourselves down.

Much better way is to simply be with the situation, with life as it presents itself in this moment without interpreting, judging, comparing and criticizing.

If we can really see life in this way fresh and empty we might be in for a big surprise – nothing is really missing! Nothing is really wrong! Nothing really needs to be essentially different than it is. Because guess what – Life is much more wiser than your thinking!

So, throw those should haves and could haves away and let life lead you the way. See what peace and rest come from letting go of wishful thinking, judgements and regrets and enjoy again your natural state of being open, trusting and loving to life as it unfolds always in the best way when you have the heart and mind to see and appreciate its wisdom, grace and beauty.

Namaste!