The return to nature

The return to nature

I have always been fascinated with nature. Since a little girl I love to go for long walks in the woods where the only thing I hear are the sounds of the birds and the wind whistling through the branches of the trees.
This peace that I feel in nature has always been something that draws me to it. It is like a soothing balm that quiets the mind and caresses the spirit.

But ever since I moved to the big city my trips to nature have diminished to the point where I forgot what it is to feel the cool breeze from the trees caressing my cheeks.

This is when I noticed the constant stream of thoughts getting its grip on me. It’s like with every walk down the street, with the cars passing and a crowd of people around me they get louder and louder, as if to quiet the buzz of the city.

Then I slowly felt my interests change, my values change and the whole way of seeing the world started being driven by the superficial standards of the city.

One cannot live like this – I thought to myself. And I went to seek a change, to find my way back to the authentic life, the life in nature, the quiet of the countryside, the company of real, living beings and creatures – the sparrow that sings somewhere between the branches of the tree, the rabbit that carefully tries not to be seen, the cat that is having a lazy strow on the sidewalk – a feeling more real than any city can be.

Nature is a great teacher, a therapist, a healer, a shaman, a guru, whatever you name it- nature is a master that speaks in a silent way for the ripe student to understand. And the sooner we find our way back to it, the better it is for our own sake.

Nowadays humanity faces a lot of challenges – greed for money and success, a rise of consumerism, pollution, mindless exploitation of the resources of the planet, not to mention anxiety, depression and alienation from our own Self.

All this due to our huge step away from nature and from what is natural.

If we want to find happiness and peace and help the world to heal from the damage we are causing it, we need to remember and go back to what is real.

We might be experiencing a turmoil at this point in time, but it can be also a wake up call, because life is giving us what we have been giving to it. The further away we are from ourselves, the louder the alarm of the clock.

So, what can we do to make a change?

Just go back to yourself. But I don’t mean back to your plans, visions, goals, desires. I mean back to the innocence and silence that is inside you. And that is where nature can be of great help.

Whenever I go out of the city it is like there is this alive silence that is vibrating in the air. The quiet streets with just a dog’s bark from the house up the hill, the sense that time has stopped and there is just this timeless moment here and the peace that is soothing my being … that is the therapy we all need.

A human being needs to turn to the silence within in order to rest and rejuvenate. We often forget, especially if we live in the city. We might think a trendy yoga class will give us peace but are we really going there to find ourselves or more because it’s hip?

Let me not try to convince you more but give you some ideas, a few suggestions. Actually let’s start with just 3 super simple things you can start doing right now to reclaim your inner peace and oneness with all-that-is.

1. Go for a walk in nature.

Obviously, the simplest thing you can do is to just go and have a walk in nature. I have seen many people do it the wrong way though. They bring a friend, for example, and chat about whatever they can think of, just to avoid the silence, which is not the point of it at all. Of course, having human contact is a beautiful thing, but we can have it anywhere.

You need to treat your walk like entering a temple, because nature is indeed a temple – a living, breathing temple. When you approach it with awe you will see its beauty, its sacredness, its wisdom. That is what you go there for – to honor it and offer yourself up to it, so that it removes your thoughts and purifies your being.
This is a meditation.

There was a place near my house where there were beautiful woods and usually there is not a soul there during the week, but when the weekend comes it is pretty full of people. It turns to something like a market place.
I have seen all sorts of people there – from chatting on their phone, making selfies, leading a heated conversation to even watching the latest news while they walk.
Do you think they are having the real benefit from a walk in nature?

So when I mean to go in nature I mean just you – no friends, no phone, and yes I know you might be so tempted to take a picture of this beautiful tree, or you see a deer and want to make a video for your IG following, but no, not this time. Make this walk just for you, you and only you.

How often do we spend time just with ourselves? There is always someone messaging us on our smartphone or we are tempted to see the notifications about what’s new on social media.
Do we really spend any time alone at all?

I can only imagine how our great grandparents used to spend their time in the evenings – with no electricity, only a small candle light. They must have been much more balanced than we are, because they would have had time to be quiet with themselves, without distractions.

I highly doubt most of us today, especially those living in the city, could spend their evenings like this. The itch to check your phone or call your friend, or look what’s new on Netflix is often stronger than our wish to meditate.

But the sweetness of what you can discover if you make a little effort to overcome this habit is so great that it is worth to miss what your friends have posted on facebook.

Give it a try one time and take a walk naked. Don’t worry, I don’t mean naked without clothes, but without thoughts, without distractions – just you and you alone.

2. Learn from an animal

I feel so much love when I spend time with animals. When I caress my cat and feel how sweet it is purring in my lap, when I take my dog for a walk and see the joy with which it is running in the fields, or when I hug a horse and see that deep intelligence and innocence in its eyes, it just moves me. It inspires me, to be better, to be more loving, to be more authentic, to be the self that nature has created me to be.

Animals are so unpretentious, so real and authentic, so free in their expression and at peace with who they are.
I believe there is so much to learn from them – to learn how to be natural and happy, how to be ourselves in the way nature intended us to be. We can even learn how to be human, discover that loving and caring side of us that wants to just give without expecting nothing back.

If you want to get a little bit more in touch with yourself go look at an animal – see how it moves, how it acts, how spontaneous and real it is. It is not trying to impress or to come across as pretty or successful, or smart. It is just as it is – just happy to be. It doesn’t have doubts about its worth, its beauty, its looks. And it is in perfect flow and harmony with the universe. That feeling is so sweet, so fulfilling.

In fact, we think that we will find fulfillment when we create ourselves in a certain way or achieve a specific thing, but there is no greater fulfillment than to discover your oneness and harmony with life, with nature, with all living beings. It is just the sweetest thing. It is love, pure and unconditional.

So, look for a teacher – your dog, your neighbor’s cat or a horse, could be any animal at all. Go and spend time with it, learn from it. I am sure it can teach you how to be. And the bonus is that there is no tuition fee.

3. Get your hands dirty

Today we do most of our work on computers. We don’t have to do much physical activity to get things done and earn our living. Mostly we rely on our minds and thinking. This way we spend most of our time in the domain of our minds and kind of forget the connection to our bodies, to doing things the old-fashioned way.

Our grandparents used to spend most of their work hours outside – working in the fields, in the garden, planting things, getting their hands dirty, moving their bodies, feeling the nature, honoring and working hand in hand with the earth, relying on their harmony with the planet for their survivor and living.

Today it is easy – we go to the supermarket and find whatever our heart desires. If you want a salad or a tomato you just go and buy one, you don’t have to select and plant it, water it daily and wait for it to grow before you eat it. We have become kind of lazy and impatient in that respect. We want everything ready and done. We don’t even need to cook – just grab a takeaway and no sweat needed. That way we have more time to spend using our minds to think and to entertain ourselves.

But we don’t realize that doing so we are moving further away from ourselves and worse – we forget to appreciate things. That’s why we get bored easily, because we can get everything fast and easy and it doesn’t need our dedication, patience and care. We can get whatever we want at any time we want it.

This is deteriorating for our values and our qualities as human beings. Due to this we don’t value anymore things that don’t come easily – we don’t fight for our relationships and friendships, we don’t appreciate the small things. So many people suffer from the lack of meaningful relationships. The reason for it is the same – we are looking for instant gratification, just like if we want a tomato we go and get one, we don’t plant and water it, when we want a partner we expect them to fall in our feet instantly and other than that is too much work to bother.

If we don’t reverse this, we will lose all meaning in our lives and it will get progressively difficult for us to be satisfied and find any fulfillment and happiness.

I advise you not to fall in that trap because it is not easy to get out of it. Start reversing this habit of seeking everything easy and already done for you. Try to do those things that you have taken for granted yourself.

You can easily take up a gardening hobby for example – it will bring you closer to nature and to yourself. Try planting a tomato and eat it instead of buying one. Start cooking instead of eating out or ordering food online. Doing the things you used to take for granted yourself is indeed a healing. It gives a satisfaction and a sense of accomplishment and worth.

Be creative and take up some hobby that requires you to get your hands dirty and do things the old-fashioned way. You might be surprised how fulfilling it can be.

Whatever of the 3 advices you take it is a step in a good direction – the direction to be authentic and real, to reconnect with yourself and become whole again, to appreciate life and nature and learn to be more loving and kind, more generous and balanced. It is something we need at this point in time. We need human beings to remember what it means to be a human being. A human being is an embodiment of beauty, peace and love.

A human being can either ruin this planet or nurture it and heal it. It is up to each one of us what kind of human beings we choose to be and how we will contribute to the future of our planet.   

The power of appreciation

The power of appreciation

Has it ever happened that you wake up in the morning and you feel happy and at peace? Then your whole day goes well and beautiful. You see the things that make you happy and the little things that once bothered you are no longer there. Everything is like a sweet fairy tale.

Has ever the opposite happened to you? You are in a bad mood and it seems like whatever you touch breaks? The good things you used to see seem boring and meaningless? It’s like the whole universe is conspiring against you and your happiness?

Is it chance? Life sends us sometimes good days, sometimes bad ones?
Do we really depend on the weather – if it’s sunny we are happy, if it’s rainy we are sad?

In truth those good or annoying things that happen on any given day are not really an accident but rather a point of view. When you feel happy and grateful for life you tend to see more good things in your life, and you don’t notice the things that once bothered you.
On the other hand, when you feel anger and frustration you project it on everything around you.

Things don’t really happen to make you sad, angry or happy but rather your inner state gives them the color of your feelings.

We, as human beings have the beautiful opportunity to choose – to choose our actions and mostly to choose what we give our attention to and how we respond to things.
Nothing is good or bad, it is what we see in it and what we make it to be.
And here is an interesting fact, the people who are often happy, in good mood and things are working out for them are not necessarily born under a lucky star, but rather they tend to focus on the bright side of things – on that which they like about the things around them, on the opportunity in the situation and on being grateful and appreciating the gifts of life.

Gratitude has a great power. It can change not only your inner state but everything in your life. When you focus on all the good things in your life that you usually take for granted you realize how extremely grateful you can be for everything – from the sunny day to the bed you sleep in at night.
On the other hand, if you always look at what’s lacking you will always create misery for yourself and the people around you.

The inherent nature of human beings is in truth peace, joy, love and gratitude. That pure essence that has created us as a baby in the womb, that’s given us our first breath, that kept us up during our first steps, that is the light behind our eyes and the silence behind our every heart beat – that pure essence is true unconditional love and wisdom. It is what we are born through and as. And the nature of that essence is gratitude, it is life itself, the miraculous power that makes the sun shine and the bees fly. When we see and know that, we realize that our life is miraculous and a great gift. Something we can’t even begin to comprehend with our minds. What is there to complain about?
Isn’t gratitude the least we can feel for that great, awe inspiring mystery that we are?

When we think we know what life is and who we are we become arrogant. We start to take things for granted and when you take things for granted you start to complain and see lack around you.

Just look at a baby or a toddler – that magnificent joy in their smile, the absolute amazement with which they look at things, the happiness, the silence, the unconditional love. That’s the shining of our true essence, of the light we are born with and we have within us throughout our whole life.
We forget it is there when we start to think we have figured it all out. In truth we haven’t understood anything, we have just become dull.

Gratitude is the power that can reawaken us to the beauty that surrounds us.

We wake up in the morning and often we just drink the same water, taste the same coffee and have the same things to do ahead of us. But it’s not quite so. The very fact that we wake up and taste things is enough of a miracle in itself. Everything that’s at our disposal is pure love, the great love that sustains us. That glass of water is keeping our body well and healthy. That tea or coffee is a little gift to bring us joy.


When we focus on being grateful, we wake up in a world of pure Grace.

And oh, what beauty it is to see with the eyes of love. Nothing is ordinary anymore. In fact it never was, we just missed to see.

You can start with simple steps – count the things you love, appreciate what you used to take for granted, look for the little things that bring you joy, smile at the sky, listen to the birds singing and just say Thank you ! Thank you ! Thank you !

When a thought comes of what you don’t have just think of all the things you do have instead. And like that from a feeling of lack comes a feeling of richness.
When you want to complain about a situation think of all the ways it is helping you grow, think of all the blessings it has brought.

And just like that you start to see … you see that you have a choice. The choice to see and act with love and appreciation or to do so with arrogance and complain.

Life always supports you – if you want to be happy and spread joy it gives you that experience. If you generate thoughts of negativity and bad moods it gives you more reasons to do so.

In fact life is your mirror – you shout at it, it shouts back. You smile at it, it smiles back.
So next time you are at a choice to give gratitude and love or to think of lack and wrongs remember that, it is your own creation.

Photo by Flor Blake Photography

What’s your story?

What’s your story?

Have you noticed – anytime you meet a new person they ask you to tell something about yourself – who you are, what you are doing and basically … what’s your story.

Why is a story so important?

We need to navigate through life through images, words, sounds and tastes. In order to orientate we need something to guide us, a compass that shows us our journey from where to where we are moving. A story is made out of impressions – of what we have heard, seen, tasted and experienced. Once we have recorded those impressions in our mind we have made them our qualities and ultimately our business cards. The story you tell is your business card. People want to know what you have in order to process you as a person.

But your story is not all for others either. Most of all it is important which story you are telling to yourself, because honestly … all stories are eventually made up … and if you can make up any story why not make up the best story?

If you make a simple experiment and write down the story of your life but first focus on all the things that have gone wrong and you didn’t like – all the could haves, should haves and “I didn’t want this”.
Tell the worst story ever you can and then see how it makes you feel.
Does it make you happy? Does it make others happy? Does it bring the sunshine in your life?
And notice how does it influence your outlook on life, what decisions and actions it makes you take? Happy ones, wise ones?
Fair enough.

Now give it a second try but this time tell the best story of your life – all that you loved and you are grateful for, all that made you the person you are today, all that you enjoy and appreciate. Tell a story of joy and happiness and see how it makes you feel. Is it different? Do you notice the change in the air? What decisions and actions it makes you take? Better ones? How does it make others feel and what does it make them think?

The story you tell to yourself has great power because it influences your whole life – your moods, your feelings, your decisions and finally your actions. When you realize it you start to notice how often you have sabotaged yourself in focusing on negative stories when you could have really focused on all that’s good and right. But the worst is when we start to tell those stories to others and instead of making their lives a bit more bright we try to convince them in our own made up fears and doubts.

Stop and examine who you believe you are.

Creating a conscious life is really about bringing more light into what’s going on in the dark corners of your mind. When we don’t pay attention we often tend to indulge our thoughts in worst case scenarios, anxiety, fears, judgments and regrets and this can go on and on making it the unquestionable story of who we are.

But why not question? Why not question if that story is right? And if it’s not quite so could we not make it right or at least choose one that makes you feel right?
A situation always has at least two versions – the one of what’s bad and wrong and the one of what’s good and right and to tell you a secret we are really the ones who choose which side of the coin will stay up.

And a story is much more powerful than that. It can create your personality, your friendships, your business and your life.
But I am not here to tell you to create a completely false story, no. I am telling you to see your own already amazing story! We all have a really fabulous, award-winning story when we choose to see.
All those unique things about yourself can be real gems when you pick them up and polish them.

If I would leave you with any message it would be to look and see all the good things you have and have had. And maybe all the difficult things that brought you wisdom and strength. And all the silly things that made you keep your innocence. All those little things are your real gems. Don’t throw them away but see how beautiful they’ve made you look today.

Are you living your dreams?

Are you living your dreams?

Did you know that 98% of people don’t follow their dreams and don’t live a fully fulfilled life?

Please, don’t be one of them!

I was making a little research for my recent webinars and courses and I wanted to know what determines success and how comes just 2% of people live the lives of their dreams.

Is it karma, is it good luck, or is it brains and strategy?

How comes 98% of people don’t dare to make their dreams come true?

Well, I did my research and found some simple but very powerful facts. And above all I found the 3 things that really make a difference when it comes to goals, dreams and living a fully fulfilled life.
Do you want to know which they are? I bet you do.

Here are the 3 master points that successful people have all clear and in place and the rest have … well … in a bit of a mess.

There is one very common thing when it comes to how exactly successful and extraordinary people achieved their dreams. It might sound simple but is really a key.
Ready for it?

1.It is knowing what you want and where you want to be.
That’s right. Simple, but I guess so often we are not quite clear about what it is we really want, or we keep on changing our mind. But there is one thing you need to know. To get somewhere you first need to know where that somewhere is. And until you do you might be just walking into many side street.

So, most importantly, get clear on what it is you want and stick with it.
Yes, stick with it, go for it, just follow it. And don’t just have it in your mind, because it will just remain a vague, distant idea that some day might work out …or not. So take a pen and paper and write it down. You might be surprised because something much different might come out when you start writing. So, take that exciting journey and start by writing down what exactly it is that you want to have, do, where you want to be.
Yes, have it black and white on paper and feel it in your heart.

2.Say “yes” to opportunities.
I know it can be scary to do new things, but if you want something amazing you will have to do something about it. Most successful people took any chance and opportunity they had. They didn’t think about it, they just said “yes” … and that yes took them from nowhere to everywhere.
When you know what exactly you want and you take the chances that life gives you, you achieve great things. As opposed to not knowing quite what you want and just staying in your small comfort zone … as obviously those 98% did.
Is it so hard to take chances that just 2% make it? Maybe. But the question is in which crowd you want to be – those living their dreams, or those working for other people’s dreams.

3.Have great passion and enthusiasm.
That’s right. I have to tell you, you might have that idea and plan about what you want to achieve but if you don’t have the passion for it … it might not go so far.
Passion is really the fuel that take dreams from just a thought to reality.
Without it there is no power to manifest what is just in your mind.
But with a passion and a vision and an open heart you might find yourself living your dream life.

So, to cut it short it’s really down to you, what you want to do and where you want to be. Do you want to live the life of your dreams or you are happy with whatever comes on your way. They are both good, no bad thing. If you are happy in every way that’s already having achieved the best thing.

Photo by Ursula Schmitz

How to have the perfect life?

How to have the perfect life?

Let’s be honest – we all want to be happy, we all want to live well, we all want a life of comfort and no struggle.This a very natural desire.

People often ask me “But how to have that amazing life?”, ” How to have a beautiful relationship?”, “How to meet the right people?” … it seems to never really work out.

You long to meet the right person but always seem to meet the wrong one, it always seems that something is not enough.

You long to finally reach that perfect moment in your life where you have everything you wanted and you are happy and fulfilled … but always something seems to be missing.
So you are looking forward to tomorrow, to the next one, to another one … hoping it will be different, but it never really quite is, is it?

 

I have to tell you something … It will never happen quite the way you imagine.
We believe we know what’s right and what’s best and we always compare our experiences with our imagination and projections just to make the conclusion that things should be different than they are right now.

But it is really not about the things in themselves … it is really more about our mindset and attitude.

 

Is there a perfect life?

 

Yes, totally … and you might be surprised but it is exactly the life you are living RIGHT NOW.

Your life just as it is in this moment is the perfect life for you right now.

 

 

Believe it or not … you are having exactly what you need to have, you are making exactly the experiences you need to make … to grow, to evolve, to taste, to feel and to transcend.
It might not look like a Hollywood movie to you but it is serving a beautiful purpose and is absolutely right in itself.

The thing is, most of the things we have, the experiences we make, the people we meet are so good for us, so right, so fitting and so perfect that we simply can’t see it.
We grow up with funny ideas and mindsets about life, forgetting our original nature and harmony with the Universe and all-that-is that at the end we simply can’t appreciate anymore the natural wisdom and righteousness that surrounds us.

 

And let me tell you something more.
Things will not put themselves right on the outside until you put them right on the inside.
There is nothing wrong in itself but our interpretation, thoughts, fears and desires make things appear right or wrong in our mind.

Your idea of your perfect life prevents you from seeing the life you have right now and it’s absolute perfection.
Your idea of your perfect partner prevents you from seeing the beauty and potential of your current partner.
Your ideas of your perfect work prevent you from making the most of the circumstances and possibility you have right now.

Ideas, ideas, ideas …

 

Mostly our ideas about how things should be prevent us from appreciating and enjoying things as they are.

 

So how to have the perfect life, the perfect partner, the perfect work, the perfect looks, the perfect … anything?

Drop the ideas of how things should be, how they should look like and meet them in their purity in this moment, see them without demands and expectations, accept them as they are … and you might find yourself fulfilled and happy finally appreciating the grace and beauty of your life as it is right nowperfect.

 

Do we remember the natural life?

Do we remember the natural life?

Human beings have been on this planet for thousands of years. We have lived and evolved through all incredible conditions with wild nature, animals, dangers and uncertainties to be here in the world as we know it today with fast moving cities, new emerging buildings, comfortable homes, social security system, television, cell phones and available wifi from almost every point of the world.

Seems we have it much easier than our ancestors back then who didn’t have the chance to call an ambulance when they were hurt or check the weather forecast on their phone but

Have we in the meanwhile forgotten the natural life?

Certainly there are many advantages of having all the comforts and security we have today but it seems that we are not so much in tune anymore with ourselves, life and nature as we used to be before.

Many psychological and emotional discomforts we experience nowadays are the result of having lost the connection with our most natural Self and being.

 

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Relying on outside information, medias, others’ opinions and ideas has alienated us from our own intuition and powers to be in tune and harmony with life, with our bodies, with our emotions, with our desires, feelings and deeper aspect.

It is not a myth that there is great wisdom in us and a natural knowingness of life that comes spontaneously and intuitively.
But why do we so rarely experience it?

How did our ancestors survive so long without any outside information, without relying on anything and anybody else other than their own being and intuition?

We are so much preassured by the ideal images of how we should be, how life should look like, what is right and what is wrong, what is true and what is false that we can no longer hear our own voice and our own being that always has the right information.

We are not just here living life, we are life!

That is why our intuitive powers and knowledge are here, because we are not just someone living life, we are life itself, we are not separate, so deep down inside us we know what to do in every given moment, we know what is right and true, we know how to respond to any situation. And that knowledge, that knowingness you can’t read in any book, nor can you learn in any school … because it is you, it is in you, it is what you are.

Life is not an enemy to survive. Life is a great mystery to discover!

self-discoveryBut when we are not in tune with ourselves we miss it. We are so entangled in goals and ideas that we have seen somewhere else and made our own that we can’t see what is truly here in this moment, what is natural and pure.

Why do we so often feel unhappy, unsatisfied and unfulfilled?

When we live through false ideals, projections and thoughts we obviously feel something is not right. When we can’t hear our own voice and don’t follow our true desires there is no way to feel fulfilled and satisfied.
When we are not living the natural life but an artificial life, alienated from our own Self how can we possibly feel happy?

 

So, how to get in tune with our Self again?

The truth is that this great power in us to know, to be, to live in synchronicity and harmony with existence has never left us. It has only been a little bit forgotten.

The first step to rediscovering our own wisdom is to reconsider our values and goals and realize what really gives us true happiness and peace and what only gives us strive and sorrow.

Has the way of competition, stress, ambition, comparison, selfish desires brought us something worthwhile or has it only alienated us from the simple joy and happiness of our Self?

Yes, modern life has many advantages but we can truly appreciate them when we don’t forget what is truly beautiful and valuable, when we don’t forget the simple wisdom of our Heart, the way to our Self and the voice of our Being.

And the simplest knowing that true happiness comes from living a natural life, remembering the simplicity of being and appreciating the beauty of this moment.